MANAGER vs FOUNDER

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Otume,

I am back from the Igede clan in Benue State and I am now with my friends from Degema, Rivers State, saying "hello" to everyone. May we always encounter favour as we anticipate a new month.

There is a certain man who was hired as a manager; he had great ideas and was willing to share it with the founder of his company. The founder does whatever he wants at every point in time. Out of frustration, the young man started executing his ideas without permission and this got him into trouble with the founder who felt slighted by the actions of the man. Let's think together as we discussed, Manager vs Founder.

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GENERALIZATION vs INDIVIDUALITY

Anginyi Nyiam,

My affiliation with the people of Igede in Benue State continues today. I have come to ‘My People’ just like they call it. This week is bombarded with many activities and I am hopeful that it will all end in praise.

Have you ever heard older people talk about certain tribes that they have some traits as such; they will make an inference advising their children and relatives to desist from associating them. Also, some communities are renowned for the production of academic doctors and professors. Interestingly, some people pride themselves with these traits.

Generalization is a situation when people of certain clans have been stigmatized. This happens intra-tribal and inter-tribal. I know that the three major ethnic groups in Nigeria have different banter on one another. This generalization has been negatively affected a lot of loving relationships and how people are treated in the case of any eventuality.

Individuality is about a person- the lifestyle, the attitude, the character. A contact with a person from a certain community might be the beginning and the conclusion of the traits from a community. The trait found in these people is not as a result of their ethnicity but based on their personality.

What is the crux of today’s discussion? Do not make people stigmatize others from the same ethnicity with you because of your behaviour. Also, you can stand out as a different person regardless of the ‘negative’ attributes associated with your tribe across generations.

Take time to rewrite history and not continue with negative attribute from your homeland.

Cheers!

Olutayo

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FAST FOOD vs HOMEMADE MEAL

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Gbe nor,

As I have always shown intention to showcase Nigerian languages on this platform, I have come to you speaking Ososo language in Edo State, Nigeria, saying, Good morning. Hope it is a pleasant morning over there as it is here?

I will be discussing something that we all know but we usually ignore for many reasons ranging from laziness; change of taste; tight schedule; traffic congestion and many more. Well, I will want to ask you some questions, have you gone to a restaurant to find out that the condiment is overwhelming? Have you gone to a restaurant to buy a sour meal? Let’s reason together as we consider Fast Food vs homemade meal.

Fast food is defined by Wikipedia as a type of mass-produced food that is prepared and served very quickly, was first popularized in the 1950s in the United States, and may be relatively less nutritionally valuable compared to other foods and dishes. Food sold in a restaurant or store with preheated or precooked ingredients, and served to the customer in a packaged form for take-out/take-away. Fast food restaurants are traditionally distinguished by their ability to serve food via a drive-through. The consumption of fast food leads to at least a 50 percent increase in calories consumed, sodium and total fat intake which may lead to weight gain and high blood pressure - risk factors for diabetes and heart disease.

Homemade meals are food made for the consumption of a sizable family. Homemade meals taken into consideration the dietary needs of everybody and it is also less expensive while everyone can have sufficient quantity. Some people who are used to homemade meals ‘find it tasking’ to eat out. Homemade meals do not have complaints but it is much healthier with natural supplement and less consumable ‘cosmetics’. Homemade meal is largely a balanced meal. Contrarily, many mothers refuse to train their sons how to cook as such he has no choice but to constantly consume fast food.

According to research conducted at Harvard University, families that ate together every day or most days had higher intake of health-promoting nutrients such as calcium, fiber, iron, vitamin B-6, vitamin B12, vitamin C, vitamin E and vitamin C; they also had less overall saturated fat intake.

Children who eat more processed and fast foods that are usually less healthy than home-cooked meals. Children see up to 10,000 food commercials every year; most of these are for fast food, candy, soft drinks, and sugared cereals. Also, a survey by the National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia University found that teens whose families ate together frequently were less likely to use alcohol, drugs and cigarettes, something that provides myriad other benefits besides better physical and mental health. 

Unfortunately, as people go up the career ladder; they have little or no time to take homemade food because of the call of duty and frequent travels. However, the zeal to be healthy such not be traded on the platter of career because at retirement, you might have to nurture illnesses with your pension (if you are not in Nigeria because pensioners here rarely get paid).

Like a healthy life at all times with good homemade meal; such is my preference.

References:

Medical Daily

Medical News Today

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DISDAIN vs DEFERENCE

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Aligwu Nyiam,

Trust you had a great week? I am still in solidarity with my Benue friends; I have come to you in Igede language saying ‘my friend’. Let me congratulate our Mothers; I am proud to be associated with different category of women who have impacted my life positively over the years: my daughter, my wife, aunties, my mother, my grandmothers and many foster women. I hope that one day; I will have the opportunity to write more about them.

I do not know if this applies to all cultures but I am sure that there are certain people that we revere and would not want to ignore their words ‘mi o lẹ ko ọrọ siyin lẹnu’. Many times, we unwillingly take to their stand because of the person involved. The response is usually you are so dear to me that is why I am taking this advice, ‘e tobi lọwọ mi’. Let’s go to today’s discourse, disdain versus deference.

Disdain is a state of feeling of contempt for anyone regarded as unworthy, haughty, contempt and scorn. When a person is showing this trait, the person does not want to the opinion of the person. Many times, even at close range, the word of that person is not taken with a pinch of salt.

Deference is the state of utmost respect. The person has the ability to ‘correct, chastise and impact on your life. People are held in deference are usually more experienced than the person in question, they would have impacted on your life and their contributions to the previous achievements cannot be overlooked.

What’s the crux of the matter, everyone has someone that is held in deference; they have the ‘reset’ button to the person’s character when some wrong attitudes set in. For every relationship, locate that person your associate holds in deference and report the person so that restoration can happen before things turn worse.

The challenge for everyone is this, can you be held in deference? Even your children, do they look to you in deference? Have you lost your deference to some flimsy attitudes of life? All category of leaders at all facet of life must not toy with his deference because many times, once it is lost, it cannot be recovered.

There is a respected leader in everyone and it must not be lost to disdain.

Have a Wonderful Mothers Day.

Cheers!

Olutayo

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